Sunday, August 30, 2009

Sad news

This is Mike and Chanda's friend Meredith. I have been asked to update the blog for them today. I am deeply sorry to inform all of you of this, but Ireland Rose lost her battle with CDH this morning. Mike and Chanda had to make a decision that no parent should ever have to make. They chose to end the suffering of their beautiful little baby knowing that she would not survive without being on ECMO. I just want to say that my heartfelt condolences go out to Mike, Chanda, Tristan and the rest of their family. I pray that God will give them the strength to deal with their loss.
A memorial will be held at Myers Mortuary on 1900 in Roy on Tuesday, September 1 from 6-8 pm.

43 comments:

  1. Chanda! I know that we will probably never meet. I'm glad to have met you through facebook and blogging. I have tears for you right now, and am soooo sad. I know how I feel, and can't relate how you do. I hate CDH!!! No one should have to go through this! I will continue to pray for your family, and for Ireland. She is such a beautiful child!

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  2. So sorry. I miss my daughter as well, cdh took her too. Sometimes it helps to know you aren't alone. I'm here for you. susansagle@hotmail.com

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  3. Chanda, Mike and Tristan, I am deeply saddened and I am in tears. I hate CDH! I am praying for all of you. Ireland will never be forgotten. She has made a big impact on all of us. She is so beautiful!

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  4. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. It's not fair! This is such a horrible defect and it makes me so mad that anyone should ever have to go through this. We will be praying for your family.

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  5. No words can truly express the empathy I have for you right now. It takes me back to the moments I had with Max. It is so unfair that we have had to say goodbye to our beautiful children far before it was time. I cannot say anything that will ever make it okay, but I can offer my ear and my heart. I am here if ever you need me. Please do not hesitate to contact me.

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  6. There are no words to express how sorry I am for your loss. I'm so glad you got to meet your beautiful Ireland and love her and be so obviously loved by her, but I'm so sorry that it was for such a short time. You will be in my prayers more than ever.

    Christy Gilman

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  7. I am soo sorry to learn of this. What an up and down week or two it has been for you. So many emotions and to lose her. You poor things. Thoughts are with you during this time. Poor little baby girl.
    Ingrid Moore

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  8. So devestated for all of you. I pray that not one more family has to lose their precious child to CDH. I know how difficult the decision, no parent should ever have to make. My heart is broken for you and I pray you will reach out if you need anything.

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  9. All I can say is how truly sorry I am that you have to go through this terrible loss, I am Evie Grace's grandmother and we lost her on 10th August our heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family, we understand how you are feeling and all I can offer is our heartfelt sympathy we are going through this only a few weeks after you, CDH fills me with horror and these little angels were probably too good for this world, we can only try to take comfort that they are always around us in spirit watching over us and they will always be part of our family forever and ever. If you or your mum want to contact me please do Lorraine_ferguson@hotmail.co.uk love and peace to you.

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  10. am praying......i'm so sorry....i can't believe it. 3 weeks since jackson died.....i'm just remembering when we were both pregnant, would have never guessed this would be the outcome for both of us, or should i say them. my loss is still so fresh that i really can't tell you that it's going to get better, but i can tell you that i'm here for you, ALWAYS. the hurt is like no other pain we have ever felt and yet or babies aren't in pain any longer it's the most awful thing that could have happened to them. I hate it hate it hate it......i have so much love for you and your family.....please let me know if i can ever help in anyway......ireland lives in all of our hearts.....she will be so very missed!

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  11. There is not any right thing to say in these moments. My husband and I have both felt the most comfort in simply knowing that we are not alone in our loss. Shane and I walk side by side you as you learn how to pick up the pieces. A dear friend of mine who lost her son after 99 days due to complications from trisomy 18 shared these words with me. "The easy part is loving her and even missing her. The hard part is learning day by day how to live without her."

    Carissa
    momma to ^Avery Mae^

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  12. I have been following you and Ireland since before she was born...I am broken right now. I have loved hearing your upbeat posts and seeing the good in the situation you were dealt. I can't imagine your pain and hope that you are holding onto one another through this. I am thinking of you now and for the days to come...miss her already!

    Angie

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  13. Mike and Chanda, I am so very sorry for your loss. I have been reading Ireland Rose's blog for a bit now, as our daughter was recently diagnosed w/ CDH as well. This is, as you know all too well, such a devastating defect. I can only hope you find some comfort in the fact that your beautiful girl is no longer suffering.
    My heart goes out to you and your family,
    Debbie

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  14. There are so words except that we are so sorry for your loss. If we can do anything please let us know.

    Your family is in our thoughts and prayers today and always!

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  15. I am so sorry. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  16. Ireland - another too beautiful for earth. Keeping your all in my thoughts and prayers.

    Truly - Ireland took my breath away in picture - I can only imagine what she looked like in reality.

    Elizabeth
    Mom of ^Cecilia^ 11/2/99-12/10/99

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  17. Shock...sadness...anger..Why oh why does CDH reak such havoc in people's lives? With each new baby I follow I hope and pray for more survivors like my Emily. Too many, like your beautiful Ireland, are taken from their loving parents arms and we just can't understand. I am incredibly sorry for your loss. I don't know how you feel and I don't know any words to comfort people I never met. Just know that I won't forget Ireland and I'll continue to pray for her and your family.

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  18. Chanda, Mike & Tristan,
    I am so very sorry you are having to deal with this loss. Ireland touched so many. I wish I could get there to hug you all. Please let me know if there is anything you need that I can help with. There are no words to expess how sad this day is. I just wanted to let you know that I will be thinking about your family. Again Chanda you know you can always call me, I'm here anytime. I love ys honey!!
    Chrystal

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  19. Chanda, Mike and Tristan,

    We are so sorry for your loss, Ireland is so beautiful. We are praying for your family at this time.

    Jenny

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  20. I am so deeply saddened that your precious daughter became an angel. Just know she understands and she is now whole and free of pain. Rest knowing she is in the hands of God. Praying...praying and praying.

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  21. Chanda and Mikey,
    I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express your pain. I've been there too. My daughter, Syliva, died of CDH in February. I pray you find peace for Ireland is now at peace. You two are wonderful parents. I've enjoyed following your blog. You seem to have a way of finding the positive in things. I pray also for the Lord to turn some of your awful grief to grace in time. I hope you continue to writing. I started blogging after my Sylvia died. For me, it was therapeutic. God bless you and your family.
    In tears and heartache,
    Beth Houselog
    houselogfamily.blogspot.com

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  22. I'm so sorry for your loss. I have enjoyed following your blog and checked for Ireland updates hourly! You had to make the hardest decision of your life today and I'm truly sorry for that. :(

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  23. Chanda& Mike,
    I am so sorry for your loss I can't even imagine what you are going through I have been thinking about you'll all day and how sad this day is. Your precious girl is without any pain now, she's a precious little angel. Just be there for each other and remember your wonderful moments with little Ireland Rose. God bless you and your family! <3

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  24. I am very sorry for your loss and I'm sorry I don't have the words right now to make this painful situation less so. I'm praying for you all and send my deepest sympathies.

    Sincerely,
    Sarah

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  25. I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through! I have been praying for you and your family so much lately. You are such amazing people and Ireland is such a gorgeous little princess. All my love and deepest sympathy!!! Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you
    Love
    Jamie Phippen

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  26. "There is no foot so small it cannot leave its imprint on this world"....I am so very sorry for your loss of your sweet precious baby girl. I am in tears--this is just not fair, for I know you loved Ireland to the moon and back and I wish you did not have to suffer the pain of letting her go. I can't imagine what you are going through, but will be praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. I am always here for you and Ireland holds a special place in my heart. Ireland is a beautiful child.

    Much love to you, Tracy

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  27. I'm so sorry for your loss, Ireland was so loved! No one should ever have to go through this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Love,
    Monica Stearns Brennan

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  28. I am so heartbroken to learn that your beautiful daughter lost her battle with CDH today. I have been following your blog for a few weeks and was so hopeful for your Ireland and your family! I just can't believe it. I have a close friend who recently lost her baby boy (he only lived about 3 hours after his birth) and I'm hoping what she recently wrote in her blog will help a little. She wrote, "We had only 37 weeks (of pregnancy) and 1 day with him but if the options are to experience his life AND death or never know him at all, I would take the joy and the pain any day. I recently read that most bereaved parents say that they would do it all again, even knowing the outcome and that’s the catch-22 of losing a child: you feel a grief that is beyond measure but it’s a price you’re willing to endure for the privilege of knowing your child."
    I am praying for you all!

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  29. Words can't expess the sorrow I have for you all. We don't understand it. I cant say I know what you are feeling.... I am soooo soorryyy you would ever have to feel this pain. May you find comfort in the Lord. I know Ireland is comforting with Him. Thoughts and Prayers.... love, hugs and kisses. Love Aileen and family

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  30. Mike, Chanda & Tristin I am so sorry for your loss, I cannot even imagine what you all are going through. My heart just broke when we got the news.I know there are no words of comfort right now, but we are here for you guys. All of our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love you Guys

    The Leach"s

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  31. Nothing I post could do much for you I am sure, but just grieving for you all, wish I could take some of the hurt away....Makes me stop and think about the things I take for granted...We love you all and pray you are comforted. Love shonna

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  32. I am sorry that Ireland grew her wings today-I know all to well what you had to go through. We lost our Kasey in December to CDH as well...I wish I knew what to say, no words will take away what you are feeling.

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  33. I'm so sorry for your loss. My family lost our little angel Marley Jane in January to complications of CDH very similar to Irelands. It still hurst everday but I find comfort in kowing she is not suffering and is at peace with God.
    My prayers are with you family. Rachel

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  34. I am so sorry for your loss. I would not wish these circumstances on anyone. We lost our little angel, Addison, in March to CDH. She fought for 22 days and showed me what true strength and love is all about! Ireland was greated by the other CDh angels and they are all laughing and playing with out pain or tubes. I am sending my love and paryers your way!

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  35. I am so saddened by the update this morning. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. As a CDH parent, I attempted to prepare myself for what you have had to endure; however, I know there is no way of understanding how difficult this situation has been for you. I pray that God will grant you some peace and understanding during this time of grieving and that you will find all the blessings that Ireland Rose brought to your lives in the short time that she was with you.

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  36. Shawn and I are so sad to hear of your loss. We just can't believe it. We are stumped as to why this happens and we often find ourselves angry and sad. Ireland is safe in Jesus' arms and is with the other CDH angels. We are praying that you soon find comfort, peace and understanding through this difficult time.

    Much love,
    Stephanie

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  37. I can't imagine what you're going through right now but my heart goes out to you and your family. I am deeply saddened by your loss and I pray that you will find peace and comfort knowing that Ireland Rose is no longer suffering and is at peace.

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  38. Chanda, Mike, and Tristan,

    Chris and I are heart broken about your news. Please know that your family is in our thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing Ireland Rose's journey with us. She will be remebered.

    Holly
    Ruby's Mom

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  39. I am so saddened to hear that Ireland has passed. My heart breaks for all of you.
    I continue to pray for your peace, strength, and courage during this journey.
    Ireland is now in the arms of Jesus and playing with all the angels in heavan. She is a beatiful child, and thank you for sharing her with all of us.
    God Bless all the CDH babies/families.
    ((Hugs)) from Iowa.

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  40. Sorry to hear the news. Sending out our love and prayers as you cope with the loss.

    Anne Morgan Vig

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  41. so so sorry...

    Dai

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  42. Your precious and beautiful baby girl touched the hearts of so many in her short time. She will forever remain in your hearts, and you will feel her with you every day. I lost my sweet granddaughter 2 years ago, at 4 months old, and I can honestly tell you that she is never far from my thoughts, and I still cry at times. You can be sure, that ALL the angels welcomed Ireland Rose, and yes Chanda and Mike, I'm sure she was smiling!
    So sad for your loss,
    Dale from NJ

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  43. I am so sorry for your lost. Your family is in my prayers.

    oh-moma.blogspot.com

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